We strive for the ideal and see an ideal image of ourselves in our heads. But sometimes our imagination gives us an image, although desirable, that is not viable.
I saw this image of an ideal mother in my dream. People around me were expressing approval, but I was just watching. Thinking, I began to realize... A mother cannot hold her baby in her arms because of her jewelry, she cannot see him through a veil, she cannot feed him. What my subconscious revealed to be ideal couldn't be ideal at all.
You should take a closer look at the ideals you are striving for and consider whether they will remain so in real life.