What does this mean to me? You can substitute or interpret both the perception of yourself in other people's eyes and their attitude towards you, and you can do this as long as you like.
Of course, yore closest people are trying to do you good and guide you in their own, perhaps more correct and well-intentioned way. You can play these games with them, you can sincerely believe and accept their position, but in private, just be yourself, without pretending to be strong, or fear of being ugly; just look at yourself with open eyes. You have to leave others best version of yourself.